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81-Year-Old Lady Gets Vibrator, “Soaks The Bed” With Orgasm

Dr. Jessica Shepherd, an OB-GYN, says vibrators are not harmful to the genital area if used correctly. However, she notes that if they’re used too aggressively or shared between folks without proper cleaning, there is potential for doing harm. It was loud—a lot louder than I remembered it being when I used it alone. Once we actually started getting into it, with the vibrator squished between us, you couldn’t hear it quite as much. Now that I wasn’t so distracted by all that buzzing, I turned my attention to, ya know, orgasming.

You may want to do some research to pick a vibrator that will satisfy your needs, although many vibrators have a variety of possible uses and vibration strength settings. The Ruby Glow Massager contours to your body—one side has raised ridges that you can grind your vulva against, while the other features a smooth nub that targets your perineum. Each side has its own motor, so “you can either rock back and forth along the toy, or simply sit down on it and let the vibrations do all the leg work,” Finn tells SELF. The Ballerina stays easy to maneuver in any position and can even rest between two bodies without you holding it there. It has 12 different settings, two simple buttons, and is quiet (even at its strongest). I try to keep things simple and stick with vibrators that are USB rechargeable either with USB-A or USB-C.

If I think about the effects that most often confound neophytes viberators, the Uni-Vibe and its many clones have to be right near the top of the list. With the Fidech G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator, you get the the power and pleasure of a rabbit, but at a pleasingly low price. On the spec side , the Satisfyer Pro 2 is completely waterproof and comes with a USB magnetic cable for easy charging. It’s a bit of an eyeful, but at this price, it’s a bargain too — endless amounts of bedroom fun, whether you’re riding solo or with your partner. Not every type of vibrator will suit everyone’s pleasuring needs, so it’s worth considering your options before taking the plunge. After all, you’re buying something that’ll go inside, around, and on top of intimate and delicate parts.

I like to drape mine over the head of a wand vibrator when I’m feeling too sensitive for direct contact since it softens the sensations to a comfortable level without dulling them too much. You want this to be for both of you, something special that you can share. Offer to bring your partner along to the store or to shop online with you. It might relax them to see that there are so many options for sex toys, as well as not-at-all scary places to shop for them.

Each one is engraved with a design meant to depict the feature it operates. To switch on the wand portion of the toy, you hit the middle option, which has a graphic of a wand head emitting vibrational waves. To turn on and increase the dildo’s vibration, you press a button with a squiggly line. To activate its rotating capabilities, you hit the one with circular arrows. Despite the unique sensations it offers, the Vibrato is still silky to the touch.

Just be sure that the toy’s buttons are well-labeled and intuitively placed—there’s nothing worse than trying to up the ante right before orgasm, only to turn the entire vibe off accidentally. It can be hard to feel connected sometimes even when you live in the same city, but put a bunch of miles between the two of you and it can feel downright sucky. Sex toys have evolved to be interactive so video chatting and sexting aren’t the only tools to help you keep things steamy when you’re apart. Fans of the Lelo Nea 2 tend to be amazed that such a tiny little vibrator can pack such a strong and versatile punch. “It’s super petite and gives you the option to use solo, or with a partner — truly the best of both worlds,” says Reeves. And despite the intensity of the vibrations, the Nea 2 is quiet, adding to its already impressive discretion factor.

As a bonus, rabbits with a flexible clitoral arm also tend to be the easiest to thrust in and out while you’re using them, should you want to, because they won’t lose clitoral contact as you do so. Each product features Bellesa’s new, advanced WhisperTech™ innovation, which sets the series apart from anything else on the market by offering sub-audible vibrations without sacrificing power. Whether in a shared living space, a hotel room, or simply enjoying a quiet night at home, the Whisper product line will allow users to fully immerse themselves in their intimate moments. Once you’ve found a good speed, try messing with the vibrational pattern settings on your vibrator (if it has them). Cycle through all of your options, and try to find the ones that you like best.

If you’re feeling braver, you may want to try a fully insertable “egg”. While this might sound intimidating, it just means the tip of the vibrator is rounded and sits right on the G-spot. If you haven’t heard of the female G-spot, let alone know where it is, don’t worry, we’re here to ask the important questions. “The G-spot is an area of sensitive tissue located inside the vagina that, when stimulated, can create intense pleasure and powerful orgasms,” explains Annabelle Knight, sex and relationships expert at Lovehoney. Your first thought when it comes to this G-spot vibrator is likely, what is that? But this uniquely designed toy is engineered with pleasure-enhancing tech, and it gave one of our testers one of their strongest orgasms yet.

Jess also hosts CityTV’s Intimately You, PlayboyTV’s hit reality series Swing, and her weekly @SexWithDrJess podcast alongside her husband, Brandon. If you struggle to achieve an orgasm and can’t pinpoint why, the Lioness Vibrator 2.0 was designed for you. If you’d prefer a more compact wand, or one that’s battery operated, try the Vibratex Mystic Wand Vibrator ($80). It’s made by the same company as the Magic Wand, but is much smaller and easier to travel with. You can’t talk about the best vibrator without talking about the Magic Wand. This classic vibrator has been around for decades and is still one of the best selling toys on the market.